To women who are in the verge of launching their dream career, this is a million-dollar question especially when they are about to get into motherhood. There were days when I asked the same question to myself. Well, later on even when my rational mind cried out for following the career path my emotional mind held me back. Four years later when I asked my kindergartener that now since she has started her school can mom go back to work…And the reply ended with a serious meltdown. In that moment, the mom in me realized that my decision was right.
And now if you are in a dilemma just like me these are some questions that will really help you to decide your future.
Can your partner alone handle the household?
Are you passionate about the job/career you are doing/going to do?
Are you losing the interest in career that you were pursuing after being a mom?
Hopefully by now you must have an answer in mind. But again, freedom matters, convincing your own partner and parents matter. Well, the latter one is the hardest I know. In addition to that, at some point as a stay at home mom I found myself getting back on workforce compared to my colleagues and friends from college. But there are solutions for that as well. As we are living in the century where the online business world is widely open In front of you as a flexible work from home mom. Alright, I’m not detailing because you know there are hundreds of vlogs/blogs on the same.
On the flip side if you opt for career first, you may enjoy the independence and sense of accomplishment a job can provide. However, at the same time you feel guilty and insecure for leaving your kid with someone at daycare or at home. Nobody in this world can take care of someone’s kids the way as their own mom or father does. And so, the years that you spent in growing up the next generation is worth.
Hey working mammas who reading this post don’t get panic by my statements above. There is some good news I should share with you. In a survey by NICHD (National Institute of Child Health and Human Development) they found that the kids in a good daycare or preschool does have more skills and kindergarten readiness compared to the ones who stayed with mom at home. Hmm, don’t get over excited!!At the same time, they showed more temper tantrums and of course, the back to back sickness matters. Finding good daycare for your kid seems easy but not the cost. I know how expensive it is.
Final words, ‘Family and Career’. You can make a choice either way. However, ask God for what is best for you. Try to make your own identity as an individual rather than relaxing under the shades of your partner/parents. It is said that we women are gifted with multitasking ability, use it for the right cause. Let the world respect you. Give your daughter a chance to make you the role model.
In my opinion, it would be great if either of the parents can take care of their kids during the early years of their life or look for work from home options. Again, each of our stories and situations are unique.Its not about in the miracle of becoming mom or exercising creativity at work, its all about choosing wisely what gives you more joy.