To feel empowered while maintaining a healthy relationship, it’s mandatory that we should master the art of saying NO without any grief. While maintaining a transparent boundary, a firm NO can also give an idea for others what to expect from you.
Most of us find it comfortable to say No to unknown people, where as hard to express the same feeling to a intimate one. Ok, let me make it clear, Recently I got a call from the duct cleaning service salesman and the moment when I came to know it’s an unwanted call I politely said No and cancelled the call. Simple as that right..?? But think about your close relative or friend constantly asking for financial help…or it may be among couples sharing romantic moments..or may be refusing an award for a good cause..?? hmm.. most my WordPress readers could link what I meant..!!
And as life progresses it keep on giving us opportunities to juggle with Yes or No questions. So it’s mandatory to know how to successfully manipulate these kind of awkward moments.
Here are some techniques which I try to practice and observed others handling the same.
>Adapt a clear, explicit and polite but firm kind of refusal – This is the first step towards self care. In some cases there can be some triggers that makes you angry and behave in an uncontrolled manner, this puts yourself sick and your relationship under pressure.
>Unless the opposite person asks for a reason don’t try to give explanations– this only works with people you hardly know..where as, to people closer to you it’s better to give some relevant explanations. But don’t over do it..or put so much of emotions to it.Try to keep it as simple as it could be.
>Hold on the conversation– if it was a sales representative we could cut the call or close the door.. but what if it’s happening right in your room.. ?? Then it’s wise to keep your reply to the questions minimal or walk out of the room or changing the subject to something you’re happy to talk about….!!
> Delay or no reply is also an considerative option– In some situations taking a pause before your response will make sure that you have enough time to think over the serious repercussions of your YES Or NO may cause.If you postpone your decision in this way, then better let them know your reply instead of leaving it indefinitely in the air. Remember, No reply is also a form of reply because NO itself is a complete sentence.
> Consider a Compromise – If you can’t carry out the request but sure that can do it in an modified version of the same request or if the person were able to do something in return for you consider that option. When we discuss about an alternative solution it can show that we are reasonable and flexible rather than dogmatic.
> Understand its okay to say NO– Well, it’s good to accept the fact that we are not superhumans and always agreeing with someone will cause stress and distress in our life. Make sure that the decision should be based on your available time, energy and money. On top of this our happiness matters.
I think there is no need to apologize too much because you couldn’t do what they have asked to do. And a NO in time saves nine…!!
All this strategies can be adopted in our both personal and professional life. HOPE you enjoyed reading this post, and let me know your tips and tricks for saying NO in the comment box below. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY..
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