Everyday day we come across the news of sexual harassments against women happening around us through medias. Is there any platform immune to these Sexual harassments..?? It’s an Universal truth that Sexual Harassment is pervasive. It happens anywhere at anytime including online platforms. And most of the people around us see this act as normal.. Why an improper touch or sexual comments are becoming more of like normalized these days.. ?What make us to think it is normal while it isn’t at all..! What make our girls to take a negative street comment as a compliment..??
We don’t need to learn rocket science to figure out the root causes of these evil behaviors. Its rooted in human History.. GENDER INEQUALITY/Gender Dominance..!!
Sexual harassments existed way before the #METOO movement took place. Until then, all these sufferers chose to keep quite on the issues faced by them.. Even though they had their own reasoning for hiding it, the basic reasons is that , we live in a male dominant society even in this 21st century..!! And I strongly believe it’s not because the they keep silence, instead their voices aren’t heard. Okay, lets instead of talking about the instances I have heard from medias let me talk on the matter by sharing some incidents happened in front of my eyes.
Incident 1: Once a teenage girl was travelling in a crowded public transit and you can imagine the customary happening if you’re from South..! One gentle man who still got some confusion with his Mom and Sisters started to bother her. Even though anger and frustration conquered her mind, out of fear she held her tongue back. To her surprise an elderly brave woman questioned him and made him throw out of the bus. Even though Mr. Gentle man tried to react to the situation he couldn’t withstand once the girl also accused him. The little girl learned to speak up for herself.
Incident 2: Same girl and friends was traveling through other state and experienced a similar situation. And this time, there wasn’t any room for second thoughts.. she reacted with her whole strength. She hit him.. the next stop he got down from the bus..! She didn’t bother about what other people will think about this.. She knew that THIS IS NOT NORMAL and what she did was right…! Since this time perpetrator was a decent old man and she didn’t knew the regional language of that place none was there on her side. Spectators point was, Hitting an old man was greater offense than what he did to her.. Woah..!! What a non-sense..!! Will they react the same if it happened to their sister or daughter..?? She must have slapped on his face instead, that’s what I will recommend..!!
Well, the story didn’t ended there..! While the heated discussion went on, a college guy of that native showed the braveness to come forward and support her. He explained what he saw and stood by her as her brother..! No more comments..!!that’s it..!!
This is not about gender..! Can you even believe that barely boys are also subjected to these kind of sexual harassments. An intentional touch without mutual consent must be questioned regardless of the gender..!!
So, now the question is why this happens every now and then in women’s case and rarely in men’s ..? Here are some of my observations and findings to arrest these kind of behaviors.
Strict laws and its execution: A Sexy talk or a comment or a touch all these comes under Sexual harassments by law.. hmm.. most of the laws are only in books not getting in to practice. Once concern Authorities must make sure that these laws are well executed.
Equal Power: As RBG once said women belongs to all places where decisions are being made..Most of the girls hesitate to speak up against these kind of issues because they know what will happen at the end of the case. Well there is a ray of hope since one of the developed country got its first lady vice president elect..And you know Kamala Harris better..!!
Let it start from our families: Teach boys and girls to Respect each others privacy and limits.. and be a good role model. when I say role model stop the dirty-dirty talks in front of our kids, speak up if some one bothers you and give the courage for your kids to do speak up in such instances. When they complain about some one or something take it seriously. stand by them instead of shouting at them..!
Stand by the victim not by the culprit: With out asking for how she was dressed , what time did she travel, whom she was with… all such irrelevant questions have a heart to show kindness to the prey.
Let also the gender equality start from families
( hope you remember one of my previous post on the same – if not, here is the link—> https://lafemina.home.blog/2020/07/24/gender-stereotyping-unintendedly-rooted-in-modern-families-too/) because all theses inequalities pave the way for a male dominant world and as a result these kind of acts spikes on a day to day basis.
Okay, let me stop here.. So, Have you ever face such kind of harassments and kept quite..? or When you reacted what happened..? do you have some suggestions for arresting these kind of acts..?? let the comment box be the space to speak up..
So have an amazing week ahead..Anu@lafemina