As a blogger or as a person how brave are you to Enter to a No Fear Zone..? how much comfortable are you when speaking out the truth..? To do a real-time/virtual presentation..? To start a new business..? To sing a solo song/dance/solo act in front of a crowd..? How will you Rate yourself in 10 with regards to of Self-confidence..?? To be frank, I would say around 8..however, way better than the older version of myself which was half of it. And in this post I will share some of the tips I found it helpful in boosting our SELF CONFIDENCE.
You probably do not know, this one isn’t an inborn talent or nothing to do with our ancestors..! In simple words it’s something we all acquire from our surroundings in course of our early ages of life time. Parents/guardians/teachers also play a vital role in building a self-confident person. Hmm, we’ll discuss it later.. So, why it’s so important..? we all long for embracing a successful life, Right..? If we observe each an every successful personalities around, one thing will be in common.. nothing else, ‘SELF CONFIDENCE’. Studies proved the fact that, most of these success makers possessed greater self-confidence than the ordinary person. So are you ready to enter to the NO FEAR ZONE with me…? okay let’s see some simple steps to follow..
Self motivation is the best motivation : You might have come across this term in job requirements like “we’re looking for self motivated individuals..” Haven’t you..? It’s nothing but, motivating or empowering yourself throughout all pleasant and unpleasant situations. Along with that we will have to stop all negative self-criticism too. In that way we’re unknowingly reprogramming our subconscious that we’re the Best. As a result we’ll never compare ourselves with others but, only with your previous best. hmm, thinking how to do this..? Self affirmations and positive self talk ( in front of a mirror or during meditation it’s all up to you).
Stop thinking, Start doing: Way before I stared blogging , I had a similar thought that, when I speak from my heart what others will think about me..? And you know this thought stopped me from blogging for past 5 years..!! You might have observed that the same thought has haunted all of us and made us fail to benefit from so many situations. Just think that what you’re going to do, will be adding value yourself and to the people surrounding you . Also we need to learn how to stop over thinking.
Capitalizing your strength: The basic thing to feel confident enough about something is knowledge. As the software is updating it’s versions, we’ll need to upgrade ourselves and add value to ourselves in the area of our interest. It’s wise to fine tune our passion to build self-confidence and therefore Self-esteem as well. ((Remember ,our post on self esteem..? if not here is the linkhttps://lafemina.home.blog/2020/07/04/6-simple-ways-for-boosting-your-self-esteem/ ))I have seen many people complaining that I’m jack of all trades but master of none. But, this thought is completely wrong in my opinion, Practice make a man perfect. When our time, energy and emotion travel in one direction this magic will happen by its own.
Stay away from toxic people: While we’re trying to build self-confidence, It’s really important to stay away from negative thinkers. If you can’t leave them, better learn how to ignore it. However, kids at their early ages who doesn’t know how to distinguish positive and negative people, will fall for their nasty comments.. Sometimes, this mishappening will question their self-confidence in the future life as well. I still can recall one of such incident happened at my very first on stage solo performance. Some friendly teasing words from dear ones, without considering of my age, went straight in to my heart. And for me, it took years to heal it and do any kind of solo presentation in front of public. So please.. please.. don’t let anyone one down especially kids..
You might have observed that when we talk to some people we feel so much of positive vibes, try to stay closer to them. Trust me it works..!! Again, thanks to mirror neurons.
Don’t let your fear hold you back: Half of the job is done once we define the GOALs of our life . Then we just need to focus the ways how to achieve it. When our desire is well-defined and robust there will be no room for FEAR. All that we have to do is believe in ourselves and come out of our comfort zones. Work for it and turn self-confidence to a habit, because each of us are numerous possibilities. So, believe in yourself. And don’t give room for Doubts..DO IT..DO
And at the end let me ask you a Question, to ask to yourself the moment before you start to lose your inner strength..’ if we already knew that we’re going to succeed then why to get panic to give it a try..??’
So, now tell me how confident are you..? or did anyone tried to let you down and how did you managed to come back..? Comment box is waiting for your response.
Have an amazing week ahead my friends.. Anu@lafemina