Adding value to yourself as a Men or a Woman

Sit back and relax.. Now ask yourself this question “What Is The Purpose Of Your Life” ..?And if you have an answer to it please ignore this post.. And If you took a while to mutter it out then proceed to read..!

Lets pause the question here and in first place, lets discuss WHY its so important to add value to yourself..? If you think VALUE in terms of Money, in that case, Yeahh.. there are many people around us thinking like my partner or my Dad is rich then why should I earn or go for work.. or suppose you are a hourly paid working person, On what basis do the company pay you..? Obviously, its for the VALUE you add to the company in certain time.. And if you want to make more, you’ll have to add more value to the company and yourself.. right..? Just like that, if we want more out of our life and to figure out the purpose of our life we’ll need to add value to our own life and learn to value yourself. And as a result, the world around you will start valuing you as an Individual regardless of your Gender/Job/Financial Status..!

There is a common misbelief among people that you can only ‘add value to yourself’ or ‘people will value you’, if you are a employed person or a person owns a business.. Well, I don’t believe in it.. it is just a way that you can achieve it but not the only one..!!

Here are some simple tips I found it useful to embrace our own life and bring out the true potential out of it.

1.Be kind and help others to add their value – While being kind and helping others its a good practice to forget about the help we did so that it doesn’t bother you in the future. Which means don’t expect anything in return..! And when we’re helping others to add value for them you indirectly adding value to yourself. It could be in terms of money or knowledge.

2.Have your own life by following your passion and intuitions : Usually Men’s doesn’t fail to follow this step. However, for women’s once she get married or after getting a 9 to 5 job she forgets everything about her passion. hmm, we can’t blame HER because you know in a family most of her duties are irreplaceable..!

So many people around me ask how do I manage to get time for all these blogging, painting ,parenting especially when classes and work moved to the virtual world..? Guys I tell you, When there is a will there is a way..!! Its a good Idea to learn to manage our time. When we’re doing something just crosscheck whether its adding value to your Health, Wealth, Passion or Knowledge if not right away stop the action what ever you’re up to.. that’s the thump rule.(special mention, rule practiced by, @my hubby)

3.Know when to Say NO and have the confidence to be yourself: Saying NO without that awkward feeling..hm, remember ? We already discussed in detail before and I’m still working on it. (if you haven’t read it here is the link– https://lafemina.home.blog/2020/08/09/a-no-in-time-saves-nine/comment-page-1/) yes, a NO in time saves nine.

It a usual trend among couples that to hide yourself to impress your partner.. And how long do you think this will work..? So, its a better option to have the confidence to be yourself especially if you’re considering long term relations.

4. Give respect and take respect: I have heard many people complaining that, I dot get enough respect , they don’t value me and so on..! In such cases its a good idea to double check that, are you treating others in a way that you should be treated..!

5. Stop comparing yourself with others –last but not the least, Just be like the flowers that bloom in the spring.. they never compete each other.. they just Blooms…! Each of us are unique. When we compare, we loss our direction and motivation.. Remember, every minute you spend wishing to have others life, is a minute spending yours..!

So what are your tips and tricks to lift up yourself as an individual..? Don’t forget to share your thoughts in the comment box below.. Have a value added week ahead..

Anu@lafemina