A ‘NO’ in time saves Nine

To feel empowered while maintaining a healthy relationship, it’s mandatory that we should master the art of saying NO without any grief. While maintaining a transparent boundary, a firm NO can also give an idea for others what to expect from you.

Most of us find it comfortable to say No to unknown people, where as hard to express the same feeling to a intimate one. Ok, let me make it clear, Recently I got a call from the duct cleaning service salesman and the moment when I came to know it’s an unwanted call I politely said No and cancelled the call. Simple as that right..?? But think about your close relative or friend constantly asking for financial help…or it may be among couples sharing romantic moments..or may be refusing an award for a good cause..?? hmm.. most my WordPress readers could link what I meant..!!

“When you say ‘Yes’ to others, Make sure you are not saying ‘No’ to yourself.”

Paulo Coelho

And as life progresses it keep on giving us opportunities to juggle with Yes or No questions. So it’s mandatory to know how to successfully manipulate these kind of awkward moments.

‘To be happy is to wisely use the power of saying NO to some people.Don’t be afraid to disappoint people who only conveniently remember you when they want something from you.’


Here are some techniques which I try to practice and observed others handling the same.

>Adapt a clear, explicit and polite but firm kind of refusal – This is the first step towards self care. In some cases there can be some triggers that makes you angry and behave in an uncontrolled manner, this puts yourself sick and your relationship under pressure.

>Unless the opposite person asks for a reason don’t try to give explanations– this only works with people you hardly know..where as, to people closer to you it’s better to give some relevant explanations. But don’t over do it..or put so much of emotions to it.Try to keep it as simple as it could be.

>Hold on the conversation– if it was a sales representative we could cut the call or close the door.. but what if it’s happening right in your room.. ?? Then it’s wise to keep your reply to the questions minimal or walk out of the room or changing the subject to something you’re happy to talk about….!!

> Delay or no reply is also an considerative option– In some situations taking a pause before your response will make sure that you have enough time to think over the serious repercussions of your YES Or NO may cause.If you postpone your decision in this way, then better let them know your reply instead of leaving it indefinitely in the air. Remember, No reply is also a form of reply because NO itself is a complete sentence.

> Consider a Compromise – If you can’t carry out the request but sure that can do it in an modified version of the same request or if the person were able to do something in return for you consider that option. When we discuss about an alternative solution it can show that we are reasonable and flexible rather than dogmatic.

> Understand its okay to say NO– Well, it’s good to accept the fact that we are not superhumans and always agreeing with someone will cause stress and distress in our life. Make sure that the decision should be based on your available time, energy and money. On top of this our happiness matters.

I think there is no need to apologize too much because you couldn’t do what they have asked to do. And a NO in time saves nine…!!

All this strategies can be adopted in our both personal and professional life. HOPE you enjoyed reading this post, and let me know your tips and tricks for saying NO in the comment box below. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY..

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Post marriage kitchen thoughts: A funny yet thoughtful analysis

Among household chores, ‘Cooking’ is a recurring task that should be accomplished on a daily basis. (here I exclusively exclude the ones with house maids and the ones who feeds on cooked freezer food for months).

I know there are many adults out there like kids who still blindly believe and follow these kinds of patriarchal norms in the society. Time has changed. While in most of the modern families where both the partners are acting as breadwinners, cooking along with other household errands is a piece of bone in her throat. And in these situations, most of us wonder, what holds my husband back and to feel like, he has no business in helping with household. So, this is a post which intends to make it possible for both the partners to participate in the art of cooking. For better understanding let’s classify people with the different mindsets.

Type A: people who believe household especially cooking is women’s jobs. I would have happily agreed with you if we lived in that nomadic era where men hunts-women cooks. Nowadays, where women are less dependent on men, this equation doesn’t seem to be balanced anymore. If this continues, I foresee in less time the equation will be reversed. So, guys out there, better equip yourself with basic living skills and be a good role model for your kids. Or else you can make some extra dollar to get a robot or maid for the job to be done. And to my knowledge cooking is a basic survival skill that every human should master. Yes, you are lucky enough to get a wife who does everything without any complaints. However, it doesn’t mean that, she doesn’t like to see you in sharing the chores.

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And a word to the ladies of the same belief – you can do cooking or cleaning all by yourself if you enjoy it (I don’t think many of us will) or thinking that to help the partner. But, remember your girl and boy is looking at you. It’s ‘OK’ to get some help from the partner and don’t forget to train your boy and girl with basic skills to live independently.

Type B: To guys who think I’m not good at cooking/cleaning but my wife is really good– Do you know, if you google the best 10-20 chefs around the world 2020 you can’t find any lady chef in there. Which means you guys are talented too. And one more reminder, we girls doesn’t know all of these arts when we were born. I believe a perfect partner can learn anything to help with his wife in/out around the house.

Now coming on to the girls- give him some opportunity to try out his skills on cooking…. sometimes we will have to figure out the right chance for doing so. For instance, have you ever heard your dear one getting loquacious on his mom’s delicious cooking skills?? Girls, it’s a golden opportunity ..!! Even if it tastes yucky keeps your thumbs up..its said that man’s cooking and women’s driving are similar in terms of risk.. well, no one is perfect right huh??..Encourage him and don’t forget to be grateful..

Type C: The people who think I’m so busy with my office works and cooking is disrespectful task. I believe every work has its own dignity. Many people out there find cooking as a time for bonding and caring amidst hectic professional life. The extent to which partners share the responsibility will affect how they feel and think about each other. And if not handled properly it may seriously damage your marital status. And trust me, most of the ladies out there don’t want you guys literally to help them, but your presence in the kitchen or somewhere around her working..

And girls, it’s always a better idea to discuss and figure out about sharing the household duties before the marriage itself.

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Type D : guys who enjoy cooking and helping in kitchen. Well, you guys are doing the perfect thing..And to the lucky girls who is enjoying these companionship please don’t take advantage of them all the time.

let me conclude here..so,who is cooking tonight?? time for me to cook..haha..😀I know there is a huge disconnection between what we write and what we practice in daily life. And I believe that day will come when we all enjoy living in an unconventional and unbiased society.

So, let me know to which category you belong to??

Hope you enjoyed the post don’t forget to Share your thoughts on the same…have a wonderful long-weekend…☺️

‘Gender Stereotyping’-Unintendedly rooted in modern families too??

In this article I’m attempting to explore the fluky gender biasing in modern parenting.. Ok, before starting let me explain the situation which made me to do this post…While searching a present for my little girls 4th birthday, my husband who knew her wish chose a box with lot of cars..’What..racing car set for girls’?? this is what you might be thinking right…??Well, my pre-programmed mind also raised a similar concern!! And it took awhile for my mind to agree with them..!!

This kind of stereotyping begins from the the moment when we welcomes a newborn to this world..Some cases even before that..!! Blue for boys-Pink for girls..Racing cars for boys-Kitchen play set for girls..well, the color coding in hospitals make sense to certain extent. However, when we go behind the gender stereotyped toys without realising the clever marketing strategies, it seriously affects our kids psychological and physical development.

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When we prefer a kitchen toy set for you girl child, you are unintentionally programming your kid that in a family system, cooking is the responsibility of a woman. Gender stereotyping matters when in the modern world where women acquire the role of the breadwinner and she is imposed with the household chores as well.

Recently, I happen to listen an interesting interview of a film actress, where she was asked about how she could manage both personal and professional life. And to my surprise she answered it by saying that, tonight she is going to ask the same question to all the men out there..!! Yes the statement delivered on social norms on sex discrimination was thought provoking. Sometimes this kind of discriminatory acts and words creates so much of melancholy and agony in a girl’s mind !!

Let me recall an incident from my own childhood. In our annual family meet event there used to session to congratulate the topper of any public examinations. To my knowledge, I was the topper in grade 10 public exams and was pampering my dreams of receiving the award for the merit. And to my disappointment, my name wasn’t called on the stage..Later I came to know the truth that, since I’m the daughter of a woman in the family, I can’t be considered for the award..!! Words are less to explain the feelings which passed through my little mind in those days..!

The gender stereotypes introduced in childhood are reinforced throughout our lives and become self-fulfilling prophesies. Most leadership positions are held by men, so women don’t expect to achieve them, and that becomes one of the reasons they don’t.

Sheryl Sandberg

In my opinion, it’s high time that we parents should have taken necessary actions to raise our kids as gender neutral to ensure gender equality in day-to -day life. Let’s have a look at what we can practice to swipeout the gender inequalities at least for the future generation.

1. Be a good role model for your kids : Share the household duties without hesitation. There’s no chores designed for a particular gender in a house. I know it’s hard for the male readers of this post. That’s how we were raised. However, just think about your kids future then you will feel better. We can also show them real life examples like a male nurse, a female pilot, a male chef or a female prime minister..

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2. Say no to gender biased toys : I don’t think toys have a gender. When we force our kids to choose girls or boys toys, we unknowingly hinder the development of certain skills which may help your kids to succeed in their future. Our kids interest matters…!!So think twice before dressing up your girl as princess and boy as pirates for next halloween.

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3. Say goodbye to Inky Pinky Pongies : When you buy kids stuff I always try to choose a neutral color of my kids…eg: Yellow bag, Ash Boots, Black stroller..!! And by doing this you could easily reuse your girls stuff for your boy.Don’t fall for the smart marketing tactics.

Let our kids choose their favourite colours..no more inky pinkies..!!

4. Try to accept the fact that Girl or Boy both are our kids: I have seen families keeping their girl child away from the family business and smartly handling over the business to boy child. Remember we discussed about this before as well( if you don’t link follows- https://lafemina.home.blog/2020/07/08/if-a-young-blogger-malala-can-why-cant-we-malala-day-2020/). Give them equal love and care.

I strongly believe that gender equality should begin from families, from the unbiased parenting of each parent..!! Have you faced any such kind of discriminations in this modern world…??What is your parenting style? Or do you unknowingly follow any such kind of biased parenting strategies.. Let me know your thoughts on the same in the comment section below….IF you like the post feel free to share..reblog..like..follow..!!

8 basic rules for a happy life

Wait, What?? Just 8 steps for happiness..?? Yes, you read it right…!! Who on earth doesn’t want to be happy?? Throughout my life, I haven’t met at least one person, who doesn’t want to be happy. According to me ‘happiness’ is a feeling which comes within me, when I’m proud of something that I did..and I don’t believe in momentarily happiness, because I feel they are unhealthy in a way or just memories…!! So, let’s see how we can embrace a blissful life.

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1.No one should make you angry without your permission: To my knowledge, ‘Anger’ is responsive feeling of every living things in an annoying environment. There are moments especially for parents, where we all unleash our anger and shout at kids. And most of the times, we may feel guilty afterwards. When we allow outer world to access our inner world, there is no guarantee that you can maintain your inner peace. So, it’s very important that we should hold the strings of our feelings and never let anyone to steal our joy. Well, in these lockdown days I’m practicing the same and I know it’s not that easy task. However, I believe practice and patience are the keys for achieving this power of perception..

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2. Live in present and accept the moment and yourself as it is: Do you remember in one of our previous post we discussed about the mindless act of wasting our time and energy about the things that we cannot change..( if not here is the link- https://lafemina.home.blog/2020/07/04/6-simple-ways-for-boosting-your-self-esteem/)

Accept- then Act…Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it…Not against it..This will miraculously transform your whole life..

Eckhart Tolle

For greater understanding, I can share a personal moment using this acceptance key. While my last visit to India, we went to Munnar (hill station-south India)to see the spectacular view of neelakurinji (Strobilanthes Kunthianus) blooms which is only once in 12 years …our family including kids who were in the heights of excitement, patiently waited in the endless queue and then hiked around 2 km to the tippity top of the mountain to see the dreamy valley bathed in blue shades..

A random click from the way to the spectacular view of Neelakurinji-Munnar

Atlast, for our disappointment there wasn’t any blue blooms…all of it were dried out … I freaked out..you can imagine the level of disappointment..it begin with thinking of opting a wrong destination for the trip..!!And wondered why at least one of the returning tourist didn’t gave us a clue…!! And then I looked around and saw people grimacing and murmuring to themselves..Then I realised the fact that, the reality of the moment was that, the blooms season is done..thinking about it will spoil my present moments with my family..From there on, I forcefully focused my thoughts into the future, as well as encouraged others to follow the same…To my surprise tons of blissful moments awaited us in munnar thereafter ..So, what I wanted to convey is, if you have absolutely no control over the situation, it’s beneficial to practice acceptance than resistance..

3. Take conflicts as an opportunity to teach and learn: Conflicts are inevitable part of both social and family life..conflicts between couples, parents and kids, at work place so on..When we learn to handle a conflict in a constructive way, then it’s an opportunity for learning, teaching and connecting..And the only trick work here is to camly focus on the solution respecting both parties feelings and thoughts..I know during this lockdown days there will be tons of reasons for kicking off conflicts in families, but remember it’s an opportunity..

Every conflict presents you with a choice. You can choose to view conflict as an opportunity to teach or as an opportunity to blame & punish..

Dr. Becky Bailey -Easy to love difficult to discipline.

4.The only person you can change is you: Ok, let me tell you a story – Once upon a time there lived a man who loved to spend his leisure time on social media, watching movies, exploring all eateries ..hmm, somewhat like an average techie. Somehow from one day, he surprised everyone by focusing on the creative aspect of life..gradually, his wife started to get inspiration from his transformation..when they started to spend their time and energy in constructive and creative way, they could inspire and motivate the people surrounding them, which in turn made them feel proud and happy…Do you like the story..??If yes, let me share you a secret..the wife in the story is myself..☺️ So, what I wanted to emphasis here is that, the only person who you can change is yourself ..And the change should be self driven ..this will give a chance for the surrounding people to get inspired..!!

5.What we focus on, expands: This can be explained as simple law of attraction..whatever energy we choose to focus our thoughts on, is exactly what we will attract into our reality..For instance, we can count to gazillion numbers .. it’s not because we were born as Newton or Ramanuja..In our childhood we took conscious effort(focus) to learn the numbers..!! Likewise, we are capable of numerous possibilities..Just want to focus on what gives us peace and happiness so the same expands.. !!

6. See the best in one another rather than comparisons: It is said that when you choose to see the good in others , you endup finding the good in you..And remember every minute you compare yourself with others, is the minute you wasted in your life..Consciousness and gratefulness are the keys for preventing our mind from comparisons and the consequences that follows.. !!

7.Know that money alone can’t bring you happiness: Money can’t alone bring you happiness…however it can make you feel comfortable while you’re being depressed. So, stop running behind money and enjoy the moments of your life..Amidst the busy working days what we use to practice is a family dancing session, which doesn’t cost you a penny..but in turn it gives you plenty of room for bonding and get rid of all your worries…!!

8. Our Happiness should come within us: Don’t wait for others to make you happy..I believe, I’m responsible for my own happiness. It can be made possible only by satisfying our physical,mental and spiritual levels.I can provide example for better understanding..

1. Physical level happiness– eg: finding time for self care activities like exercise, bathing etc..

2. Mental level happiness– eg: following your passion may be painting, singing, writing, photography…etc

3. Spiritual level happiness– eg: helping poor and needy, showing kindness, meditation..etc

So, let me conclude by reminding myself as well as you that happiness is not by chance, but by choice…Hope this one helps you to focus on more happiness amidst this pandemic days…!!Thank you..don’t forget to share your thoughts and feel free to like, follow, reblog/share…have a wonderful week ahead..

If a young blogger Malala can, Why can’t we??-Malala day 2020

Malala Yousafzai, the youngest Nobel Peace Prize winner 2014

Yes..this face is so familiar for us and needless to explain why..!!! In fact, do you know this girl started her fight as a little BLOGGER with a pseudonym ..?? On July 12, when she celebrates her birthday, we world celebrates her courage and bravery to stand up for herself and other girl children for the right of education. When one little blogger girl around 15 years old had that fire in her even death failed to stop her..!!

I told myself, Malala, you have already faced death. This is your second life. Don’t be afraid — if you are afraid, you can’t move forward.

Malala Yousafzai– I Am Malala

She didn’t stop her journey there..Didn’t you notice those self motivated words in her autobiography ?? She decided to continue the fight for girls education and started Malala Fund, a school for Syrian refugee girls with help of her dad…herself graduated last month(June 2020) from Britain’s prestigious Oxford University.

The speech delivered by her, when she came here in Canada to receive the honorary citizenship stoked our minds..She emphasized the importance of girl education and how it would help to transform the world to better place to live. I can recall a related incident from my childhood days. When I chose a professional engineering course for my post secondary education, some of my relatives raised the similar kind of concern..‘why do you send a girl child for such an expensive courses?’ Well, luckily my parents who knew the value of education didn’t fall for those discouraging words..!!

When a girl is educated, we educate-a family-a community and the upcoming generations as well. There are many instances where I have observed gender inequality deeply rooted in our society. It may varies from refusing higher education to preventing girl child from entering in to family business..!! Knowingly or unknowingly we are underestimating and hindering the growth and future of these young aspiring women. Most of the parents think that depositing a huge amount as dowry is the most caring thing that they could do for a girl child…Shhhh..You are not legally permitted to use that word in India since 1961, but the sad truth is people renamed it as gift for bride…To date almost all of the weddings in our family involved dowry (now called gift for bride) even if the brides are well educated as the groom..And the question here is – why is no gift given to groom when both individuals are equally educated or earning….??Which means, the problem arises from the society setup or so called social norms.

So, to parents out there , give your girl child education, the time and encouragement, to finance for herself and to speak up for her self. To the men out there, be proud to be a feminist..help your mom, sister, wife and kids to get equal opportunity as men. To the young women out there, keep a step forward, raise your voice, which will be a giant leap for the mankind…

One child, one teacher, one book, one pen can change the world.

Malala Yousafzai

When I read Malala’s self motivation quotes, It remind me of the teenage days which I passed by the death valley suffering from a serious case of meningitis. And today I say to myself..it’s your second chance..And if Lord God has allowed it for you, there should be a reason behind it..don’t be afraid, move forward…!! Likewise, you may also have instances from your own life where you may apply the same..

Before concluding let’s have a quick recap on what all qualities make this little girl different?? Or lessons we can learn from her life..

1.Stand up/speak up: “We realise the importance of our voices only when we are silenced.”-Malala. According to Malala’s words, at first she thought to wait until she is an adult to speak up, and then she realized that even a little girl’s voice could be heard worldwide..So, from now onwards don’t wait for others to speak for you..

2.Courage and Bravery: Before talking about her courage and bravery , I must congratulate her parents, for supporting her by every means..they are the perfect role models for parents of girl children. Now coming back to the point, we salute and get inspired by looking at her courage to take up such a daring fight against guns for girl’s education.

3.Strong determination: Regardless of what’s going to happen or what is happening around her, she was focused on her goal. She demonstrated the true value of determination and conviction.

4.Value of education: In every speech of hers, she focused on the importance of education and how the educated women can transform the world. So educate yourself as well as you can…even if you don’t wish to have a career life, every kids wish for well educated parents.

5.Leadership: when she stood up on behalf of 130 million girls a we saw an emerging leader in her..

6.Let your dreams drive your actions: Remember my recent post on women’s dreams??( if not check the link- https://lafemina.home.blog/2020/06/27/who-puts-an-expiry-date-on-womens-dreams/). Don’t let anyone else to put the expiry date on your dreams..

7. To be humble, respectful and thankful: When July 12th was announced as Malala day her speech at UN opened like this: “Malala Day is not my day. Today is the day of every woman, every boy and every girl who have raised their voice for their rights. We never heard her complaining about what she lacks but watched being thankful for what she has and how she respectfully treated other people.

Well, the list is endless..She is a University for all of us especially we women to refer, when we necessarily lack some huge amount of inspiration.

So, in this Malala day 2020 let’s take a step forward..Stand up for us..Hope you enjoyed the post ..share your thoughts in comment section below, have a wonderful day….don’t forget to follow, like and share ..thank you 🙏

6 simple ways for boosting your ‘Self esteem’

Before reading this post I strongly recommend you guys to take the free self esteem assessment test below…remember to answer from your heart ❤️..


In this post I aim to share some helpful ideas on self-esteem and dealing with negative thoughts about ourselves.

We humans, always have some judgements about the world we live in, the situations we are exposed to, the people around us and yourself..when one have high self esteem he/she can make positive judgment about self and feel confident. According to David Bonham-Carter, Self-esteem is therefore intimately connected with self-perception and goes to the core of your identity. While reading his book I got some interesting insights on self esteem and thought of sharing the same along with my own perspective on self esteem.

Self esteem is intimately connected with self-perception and goes to the core of your identity.”

David Bonham- Carter

1.Value yourself : This is the stepping stone..we should give ourselves permission to do the activities that we enjoy doing ..it can be writing, painting, listening music, singing ..I know what you are thinking about..Where do I get ‘time’ amidst running the household errands/job and looking after kids ??” ..trust me once you find a little time you will feel the difference..!! If there is a will there’s a way.. !! Well, stuck at thinking what makes you feel happy?? Have a sneak-peek to your teenage memories..you will find many..!! There is a poet, artist, singer, dancer,writer …in every one of us.

you’re beautiful..you’re amazing..you are powerful..you’re talented..you’re unique..you’re blessed…

2. Accept yourself : ‘Grant me the serenity to accept what I can’t change, the courage to change what I can and the wisdom to know the difference.’ —Reinhold Niebuhr. As the next step, Show the bravery to accept what you cannot change..for an example, your external appearance. Moreover, show the courage to take the responsibility of your actions regardless of the outcome. It’s okay to fail..accept your faults or failings without judging yourself. Remember, success will be even more sweeter for the one who tasted the bitterness of failure..

So, now the question is- What do we do when we’re overcome with feeling “not good enough”? We must make it a habit to think about what we’re thinking about, in order to refuse to believe every last thought. Stop blaming yourself too much…never exaggerate your faults.. give yourself a break..continue from there.. Everybody has faults..no one is made perfect..!!

3.Look after yourself: If we have a high level of self esteem we may pay sufficient attention to our physical and mental health and vice versa..don’t wait for others to celebrate your victory, set your goals and credit if you are successful in achieving them. Now let us focus on the ways to look after yourself.

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For physical health: Follow good health guidelines. Try to exercise at least 15 minutes a day. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables. Limit sweets, junk food and animal fats etc..

For mental health: Start by making a list of things you like to do or that makes you feel happy. Try to do something from that list every day. Along with that, avoid creating the situations where you felt bad and don’t waste time on people who don’t treat you well.

4.Understand yourself: Do you remember in the beginning I asked you to take the free self esteem assessment test?? It will help you to know your level of self esteem. This is very a important step. Self acknowledgement..our childhood,surroundings etc may be the reasons behind.. Once we know the level we can take necessary steps for the improvement.

5.Empower Yourself : Before starting blogging I didn’t knew what I was capable of…!! The only way to find out was to challenge myself to do more than I think I can. So the next step is trust yourself..and wish yourself a good luck a let it go..one more thing you can try is self affirmations..It can fill you with immense energy and belief in your own capabilities.

‘Knowing is not enough..we must apply..wishing is not enough..we must do..’

Johann Von Goethe.
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6. Ask yourself : still stuck there…?? Ok.. if that is the case, start by asking yourself ‘what’s the worst thing that could happen??’..if your answer is not that harmful then what are we waiting for????Always visualize something positive is going to happen before preparing for a daunting task. It is said that by the practice of visualization techniques on a day-to-day basis, one can accelerate your progression towards your goals..

Waw..just after composing this post I feel my self esteem got boosted up…hmm..so what about yours..?? Leave a comment in the comment section below..And if you like the post feel free to reblog,share,like and follow ….have a wonderful day friend….🙂

Who puts an expiry date on Women’s dreams??

This questions haunts me from the day I watched a south Indian movie ‘How Old Are You??’….Is there an expiry date for our dreams??…If “yes” who is the culprit behind the scenes…?? We ourselves or the Society???

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Mostly after the marriage, regardless of the gender, our dreams just stay as dreams in the dumpiest dusty corner of our hearts. Both of the partners work for the family, and at certain point of time the priority shifts..We ladies who are emotionally too attached to our kids and family, think that our dreams can be waited…and waited..!! Of course there are exceptions with regrets in the later part of their lives. Yes, we all will have some dreams or passion which pops up in our mind while we are included in a heated up nostalgic conversation with our dear ones. Today, when I was helping my kindergartner for writing her dreams in memory book of the year, it took my mind to my childhood days..Yes, there are some interesting dreams yet to be explored.. Different reasons like responsibilities, society notions on role of women in taking care of the family, lack of motivation and support, fear of failure, lack of confidence and financial support, last but not the least our laziness could be culprit…!!

Just think about us. We women are naturally gifted with more emotional power of rearing children and taking care of them compared to men.If the job was given to men , many of them could have gave up even at the primary stages after getting disgusted and fed up. Which means, we are exceptionally talented by the divine law. We are capable of following our dreams. Moreover, in most of the modern families where both of the partners are working , spouses have started assisting in household chores against the society notions. In that event of a harmonic life, we get more time to focus on ourselves.

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So now it is only about to have a dream. Don’t worry if you haven’t any yet, its never too late. If you can hear the Lub-Dub sound of your heart, that means you still have time for dreams. Do remember the quotes from The Alchemist “Its the possibility of having a dream come true that makes the life interesting”

“Its the possibility of having a dream come true that makes the life interesting”

by Paulo Coelho

Don’t let the age or time decide your course of life. Hope you remember the founders of McDonald’s and KFC’s…they started at the age of 52 and 62 respectively.. Late lady bloomers Martha Stewart(40’s), Vera Wang(40)…so on..and the internet sensation tea shop couples in 70’s who traveled 23 countries so far(Vijayan and Mohana Vijayan -their names may not be in Forbes but from my hometown) ..the success of these amazing personalities validate the statement that “our dreams doesn’t comes with an expiry date…no matter it’s a male or female..”. Next in the list maybe I or you… Remember, we all have only one life to live..live it to the fullest. Don’t give room for doubts and fear…take it as it comes, learn from our mistakes. Give yourselves a second chance ,believe and work for it and the dream is all yours…!!!!

And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.

by Paulo Coelho
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Hope this post helped you to rethink seriously about your dreams and passion… Have wonderful day…Don’t forget to share your thoughts on the same in the comment section below and if you like it feel free to share and follow.

Parent habits of raising successful woman

I haven’t met a single parent who don’t want their kids to be successful in their life. And as we all know, to date there is no fail proof document available for doing the same. However, when I read Millionaire women next door by Dr.Thomas J.Stanley I got some interesting insights on what habits of we parents make the difference..!! So here I share some of his findings who has been studying millionaire women for three decades.

1. Harmony/empathy: Most of these women were taught “how to get along with others” from their childhood itself. According to them, their parents ran a well organized household. Along with that, they were raised in a home atmosphere filled with love and harmony. They had respect for each other and their children. They were raised with faith in God. These tools of management eventually transformed these young aspiring minds to wonderful business leaders.

2.Initiative/leadership : For most of these kids, they were exposed to the elements like initiative, creative thinking, empathy for customer needs and leadership skills by their parents. Those who are not creative and bold enough to forge their own way to success will end up with following the crowd. Being different and creative were the qualities that were nurtured, not ridiculed. These parents always tried to praise and encourage the effort of their kids, rather than their victory.

3. Happiness/satisfaction : Most of these successful women share their parents had strong love of the life. And they were happy and contented. So, those from such a jovial family tent to be joyful and satisfied themselves. They rarely complained and always stayed positive and optimistic.

4.Independence: Most of these women’s parents encouraged them to be independent by wanting them to be strong and financially secure. They praised and encouraged them to earn their own spending money. Almost of these kids had early work experience, by taking up summer jobs or part-time jobs. I know how hard is for we parents to think about making our loved ones to do so. But the study gives us some confidence for doing the same…!! Let’s take a step forward by following strict discipline and giving them some responsibilities from their early stages of life.

5.Responsiveness: According to me, this is what what we parents lack these days…most of the time, we are busy with our own chores or on the phone/TV. The parents of these successful women always had time to listen. They tried to use positive incentives to uplift their kids, hardly punished them for getting low grades and tried to be open and friendly.

So, Let’s together work for nurturing bright and intelligent kids for a promising future. Share your thoughts on the same in the comment box below and if you like this post , don’t forget to share and click the follow button.

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