Before reading this post I strongly recommend you guys to take the free self esteem assessment test below…remember to answer from your heart ❤️..
In this post I aim to share some helpful ideas on self-esteem and dealing with negative thoughts about ourselves.
We humans, always have some judgements about the world we live in, the situations we are exposed to, the people around us and yourself..when one have high self esteem he/she can make positive judgment about self and feel confident. According to David Bonham-Carter, Self-esteem is therefore intimately connected with self-perception and goes to the core of your identity. While reading his book I got some interesting insights on self esteem and thought of sharing the same along with my own perspective on self esteem.
“Self esteem is intimately connected with self-perception and goes to the core of your identity.”David Bonham- Carter
1.Value yourself : This is the stepping stone..we should give ourselves permission to do the activities that we enjoy doing ..it can be writing, painting, listening music, singing ..I know what you are thinking about..Where do I get ‘time’ amidst running the household errands/job and looking after kids ??” ..trust me once you find a little time you will feel the difference..!! If there is a will there’s a way.. !! Well, stuck at thinking what makes you feel happy?? Have a sneak-peek to your teenage memories..you will find many..!! There is a poet, artist, singer, dancer,writer …in every one of us.
2. Accept yourself : ‘Grant me the serenity to accept what I can’t change, the courage to change what I can and the wisdom to know the difference.’ —Reinhold Niebuhr. As the next step, Show the bravery to accept what you cannot change..for an example, your external appearance. Moreover, show the courage to take the responsibility of your actions regardless of the outcome. It’s okay to fail..accept your faults or failings without judging yourself. Remember, success will be even more sweeter for the one who tasted the bitterness of failure..
So, now the question is- What do we do when we’re overcome with feeling “not good enough”? We must make it a habit to think about what we’re thinking about, in order to refuse to believe every last thought. Stop blaming yourself too much…never exaggerate your faults.. give yourself a break..continue from there.. Everybody has faults..no one is made perfect..!!
3.Look after yourself: If we have a high level of self esteem we may pay sufficient attention to our physical and mental health and vice versa..don’t wait for others to celebrate your victory, set your goals and credit if you are successful in achieving them. Now let us focus on the ways to look after yourself.
For mental health: Start by making a list of things you like to do or that makes you feel happy. Try to do something from that list every day. Along with that, avoid creating the situations where you felt bad and don’t waste time on people who don’t treat you well.
4.Understand yourself: Do you remember in the beginning I asked you to take the free self esteem assessment test?? It will help you to know your level of self esteem. This is very a important step. Self acknowledgement..our childhood,surroundings etc may be the reasons behind.. Once we know the level we can take necessary steps for the improvement.
5.Empower Yourself : Before starting blogging I didn’t knew what I was capable of…!! The only way to find out was to challenge myself to do more than I think I can. So the next step is trust yourself..and wish yourself a good luck a let it go..one more thing you can try is self affirmations..It can fill you with immense energy and belief in your own capabilities.
‘Knowing is not enough..we must apply..wishing is not enough..we must do..’Johann Von Goethe.
6. Ask yourself : still stuck there…?? Ok.. if that is the case, start by asking yourself ‘what’s the worst thing that could happen??’..if your answer is not that harmful then what are we waiting for????Always visualize something positive is going to happen before preparing for a daunting task. It is said that by the practice of visualization techniques on a day-to-day basis, one can accelerate your progression towards your goals..
Waw..just after composing this post I feel my self esteem got boosted up…hmm..so what about yours..?? Leave a comment in the comment section below..And if you like the post feel free to reblog,share,like and follow ….have a wonderful day friend….🙂